Couple Conflict-facing Responses from a Gender Perspectiveemotional Intelligence as a Differential Pattern

  1. María Alonso-Ferres 1
  2. Inmaculada Valor-Segura 1
  3. Francisca Expósito 1
  1. 1 Universidad de Granada
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    Universidad de Granada

    Granada, España

    ROR https://ror.org/04njjy449

Revue:
Psychosocial Intervention

ISSN: 1132-0559

Année de publication: 2019

Volumen: 28

Número: 3

Pages: 147-156

Type: Article

DOI: 10.5093/PI2019A9 DIALNET GOOGLE SCHOLAR lock_openAccès ouvert editor

D'autres publications dans: Psychosocial Intervention

Résumé

Conflicts that arise in romantic relationships can be one of the greatest causes of suffering when they are not faced appropriately. Through two studies, this research analyses the differential effect of gender and the influence of emotional intelligence on conflict-facing responses, as well as their consequences at an individual and relationship level. In Study 1, we examined the existence of gender differences during conflicts through four independent samples of subjects (N = 727). After meta-analysing the results, we observed that women responded more expressively and loyally to conflict, while men had a more negligent response. In our observations in Study 2 (N = 185), emotional intelligence became a key factor in promoting a constructive response to face conflicts that is adopted by both women and men. Moreover, emotional intelligence finally favours their psychological well-being and satisfaction with the relationship. This research shows the importance of emotional skills in confronting conflicts that originate in intimate contexts such as romantic relationships and their consequences to both men and women.

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This paper was made possible thanks to the financing provided by the Spanish Ministry of Education, Culture, and Sports through a university teaching training grant (FPU16/03023), and by the projects “Macrosocial realities (economic crisis and social class) and psychosocial processes: Trust, welfare, altruism, and politics” (Ref. PSI-2017-83966-R) (MINECO/AEI/FEDER/UE) and “New ways of gender violence: Risk and protector factors for psychosocial well-being” (Ref. PSI2017-84703-R) (MINECO/AEI/FEDER/UE).

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